Love: An affair intrinsic to human nature

Love: An affair intrinsic to human nature
I have grown up watching bolly wood movies and have always felt the same tickling effect when characters are trying to get closer. These human behaviors are timeless and the urge never gets subdued. As a baby cries for milk without being taught, same is the case for this behavioral phenomenon, they are so intrinsic that they just need proper condition to germinate and display them. A man is by and large a by product of love between two individuals ,so from origin itself he is so enmeshed with these ideas that it is next to impossible to disassociate himself from it.
Now How about describing what is love? Love is a feeling so hardly an objective evaluation is going to be of any help. It is something like wind, presence is felt but difficult to describe. It starts with physical attraction and culminates in the higher form of bonding. Now is being physically attractive an important criteria to fall in love? For majority of cases answer will be in affirmative and no for a minority of cases. Can one get in love with another without being attracted? Leaving that spiritual dimension.
Attraction is important. Nature provides answer, Flowers have to be beautiful, must have nectar to attract bees necessary for pollination and continuation of specie, Cactus don’t need bees, I guess! In cases related to human, female member are beautiful like flowers, they have virtues and mannerism to take breath away from the male members, the bees and thus justifying the theory of attraction being the first step at the altar of love.
Now when members of opposite sex get attracted then how do they proceed in this saga of love? For human relationships are important and love acts as a glue to keep these relationship going. Now the baby steps of physical attraction gives way to the deeper bonding. One celebrates the companionship and separation seems to inflict excruciating pain. Why this so much of dependency?
As food is necessary for survival, similarly the forged relationship becomes food for the soul and in absence of one’s soul mate; the inflicted hunger causes the suffering. But why dependency on one person? If one is thirsty, why not drink from the other sources available than insisting on the previous acquainted sources? Is the quenching of thirst important or the water-source is vital?
Stories depict narratives of men who get devastated when they were separated from their beloved and the great sufferings they faced; they make good reading stuff, legends. But they are heavy on common sense. People say it is difficult to apply any logic in love but is not that being primitive? Logic being defied in case of emotional cases is at the root of all these miseries and it seems inconclusive. Rationality is an important trait human have and is as vital as the love, letting heart take control over head is an unfortunate event and of catastrophic after-effects. But the dichotomy of head or heart over matters is an unending reasoning.
Moving to next question why do people love? What else will they do ….The hermits or a nun’s life is too dry and it makes hell out of life. God made us to celebrate the gift of life. Life is a punishment in itself considering the nuances one has to deal with in due course of life , so what love does is to make it tolerable, acts as sedative to reduce the life-pangs. Being loved by someone is a great feeling; it makes one feel that he has some reason to exist. It gives a purpose to life and acts as a wind sail to carry the ship of life over the sea of time. The deficiency of love sucks away the vitals and leads to stunted growth and hampers any improvement in the situation.
Does love only mean getting the necessary attention and recognition from the member of opposite sex?
Love has a very large circumference. It encompasses every thing that a human is able to perceive. One can be in love with the work he does, one can be in love with the people around him and society as large, one can be in love with the ideology he has faith upon, one can be in love with morality, integrity of himself. The area is so vast that narrowing it down to likings and affairs of ephemeral humans is just a part not everything.
Love u all!
Bye for now